The Change Catalyst

Attending a memorial is always a time for pause and reflection. A biking club buddy passed on last week and the memorial was a diverse mix of cyclists, business associates, pastors with a whole host of nationalities present. As we heard from Paul’s pastors, family, friends and business friends, it was amazing how a clear picture was painted of the man and his life. A total supporter. He left a strong impression on people as caring, personable and humorous. He gave people pet-names. Our hyperactive bike club leader who talks 200 words a minute was known as “hummingbird”. Spot on!

In pre-Facebook times, he was able to maintain a strong international network keeping regular contact (and motivating) his friends through phone calls and emails.  I was impressed by the impact Paul left on the people around him. And it made me think about what my impact is. Have you ever thought about how you would like to be remembered?

Here are a few tips on how to create a life of purpose:

Living a life of purpose

What would you like people to be saying at your memorial service? Take a Tombstone test. What would you like to be written on your “tombstone”? (assuming you would have one!) Would you choose “A” or “B” below?

A -  Here lies a person who built up a fortune

B - Here lies a person who knew what his children’s favorite color was

A- Here lies a person who was feared and respected by all

B - Here lies a person who brought curiosity and creativity into everything they did

A- Here lies a person who left the world with a full inbox

B - Here lies a person who left the world satisfied

Try this out and write down some epitaphs on how you would like to be remembered. By the way, if the above “A”s are more like your life now. Maybe it’s time for a change.

As a “how to” coach I will add a few more practical tips:

Be ready

Prepare a one page sheet which you keep locked away in your safe with a list of how your loved ones can access your assets (bank account, stocks, bonds, property). Once a year update a goodbye letter or make a  videos. Tell your closest friends and relatives how much they mean to you. This can be an emotional experience so give yourself some quiet time.  This message will be your final words and helps your loved ones have a final personal moment with you. Keep the letters and video in your safe.

Pay attention to earning warning signs

I have lost two friends to heart attacks and in both cases there were early warning signs. Loss of breathe was a common sign for my friends. Book a regular health check up annually and be really aware of your health levels.  Take gentle exercise on a regular basis. Swimming is my favorite as - living in a polluted city - it avoids breathing in toxic fumes.  If you live in a city, take a few weekends out in the country every few months to relax and breathe fresh air.
As we approach the new year, what new goals or dreams do you want to acheieve this year. Need help overcoming some of those persistant obstacles? Contact the Change Catalyst for more on how to accelerate your succees in your health, work and family life.