Remember that you came here realizing the necessity of struggling only with yourself and thank anyone who helps you engage in this struggle. - George Ivanovich Gurdjieff
It is easier to strike out at other people. Easy to attack with words and emotions. Easy to talk about someone behind their backs. Easy to character-assassinate without looking them in the eye. This type of conflict only protects your ego. Your ego protects you from change. Without change you cannot move on to fully express your talents with the world. The only conflict and struggle is the one with yourself. What is your struggle today? What are you growing out of? A job, a life situation, a bad marriage? Perhaps your bad temper, your wasteful ways. Growth is often made through conflict. Self-growth through self-conflict. If you do find yourself in head-to-head conflict with someone else, find the third way. Find a way different from the conflicting paths.